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Post by Bruce Tackett on Apr 6, 2019 19:06:30 GMT
Today is my 24th birthday. Of course I'm alone at home since I don't have friends, family or a girlfriend, but it's okay. You'd better get out there and start mingling, young man. Old? You wanna talk old? I can tell you about old.
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Post by billfish on Apr 6, 2019 19:17:12 GMT
Today is my 24th birthday. Of course I'm alone at home since I don't have friends, family or a girlfriend, but it's okay. I have electricity, a full fridge and roof over my head that's all I need. I already did my first workout in the morning and I will do another one later as every day. That's one of the few things that actually bring me joy. What has always been my biggest fear however is getting older... I'm scared of it. It's unstoppable and irreversible. I just think that at some point "it's too late". I'm 24, haven't achieved anything of note in my life, barely know myself, have no real goals, no aspirations, nothing that drives me forward. Sometimes in the morning when I wake up I'm like "for what am I doing this?" .. I just work to survive. I'm like "is that all? this can't be it".. I don't like my job, it's not fun, I'm not even very good at it! I just do it to pay my rent. I think that's the case for many people. Many people don't like their job isn't that normal? What bothers me is that there is nothing in life that I'm really good at. Other people they have a passion, something they happily put all their energy into. It's their purpose in life. A path they can follow. I'm just here, running in circles. I just wish I had some kind of purpose in life, a mission, something I can identify with and work towards. I can't be the only one who has/had these problems. I wish my father was still alive he always had advice and showed me the way.. JRG Happy Birthday ! You need a change.......maybe a radical change To borrow a phrase: radical changes bring radical results Perhaps the military or a job you never even considered. I became a NYC Fireman when I was 28 after getting out of the Navy, I also was in the Air Force....had a lot of exciting experiences, traveled and made many friends....worked on jet fighters, sailed across the Pacific Ocean aboard a guided missile cruiser etc etc. i loved the Fire Department....and I've also worked construction, oil refinery roustabout, surveyor, telecom tower climber, tugboat deckhand, personal trainer and ran a boxing gym Get out there and do it man.....it's your life, live it ! Don't sit around feeling bad, take the bull by the horns and make it happen Here's some music to inspire you !
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Post by Michael on Apr 6, 2019 19:21:38 GMT
Live Your Life. Go mess with some girls and try to find out what You want to do in life, test the waters. Happy Birthday!
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Post by billfish on Apr 6, 2019 19:24:14 GMT
Today is my 24th birthday. Of course I'm alone at home since I don't have friends, family or a girlfriend, but it's okay. You'd better get out there and start mingling, young man. Old? You wanna talk old? I can tell you about old. Ask to see Bruce's driver's license....it's printed on papyrus !
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Post by stormshadow on Apr 6, 2019 19:54:42 GMT
I have t shirts older than you. Happy Birthday
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Post by Mr Average on Apr 6, 2019 21:16:34 GMT
You'd better get out there and start mingling, young man. Old? You wanna talk old? I can tell you about old. Ask to see Bruce's driver's license....it's printed on papyrus ! Yes and the chariots only had 4 horsepower back then!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Bruce Tackett on Apr 6, 2019 23:49:12 GMT
Lemme tell ya something. Those of us who are in our seventies have lived our lives. Not all of us will see eighty. I can remember ten years ago like it was yesterday. I wonder if I'll be around remembering back to this time ten years from now.
You are so very young. When you're young, you have one thing - hope. You will see better days ahead. You have "someday".
The day arrives when you wake up one morning and realize you have run out of somedays. You've played your hand and it's now the end of the game.
Don't squander the years you have ahead of you counting on someday. The years pass by faster than you realize. Make what you want in life happen now.
Working out plays a BIG role in your self-esteem and confidence. It gives you a solid foundation on which to build. Make that a cornerstone of your life and get out there and mingle.
When I was 24 you couldn't keep me inside. I loved hitting the bars in San Francisco and making friends and girl friends. I had a killer pad right in the heart of it all. I made Monday my day for taking care of business. I'd come home from work and cook up a big pot of stew. While it was simmering, I'd go around the corner and do my laundry. When the stew was ready, I'd divide it up into 6 tupperwares and freeze them. For the rest of the week when I'd get home, I'd exercise while thawing out a stew, and then I'd have my stew while watching the news, and then I'd be out the door.
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Post by Mr Average on Apr 7, 2019 0:57:42 GMT
At 24 I had already been with my wife for 3 years, she was my girl friend back then, in September it will be 30 years together. My how time flies!
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Post by Bruce Tackett on Apr 7, 2019 1:19:45 GMT
At 24 I had already been my wife for 3 years, she was my girl friend back then, in September it will be 30 years together. My how time flies! You had been your wife?!!
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Post by Mr Average on Apr 7, 2019 1:35:21 GMT
At 24 I had already been my wife for 3 years, she was my girl friend back then, in September it will be 30 years together. My how time flies! You had been your wife?!! What can I say, it was love at first sight, as soon as I looked in the mirror, I knew I was the one for me.
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Post by keith on Apr 7, 2019 7:51:26 GMT
First off... HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
Secondly, I will be 50 later this year and yes I am too dreading getting old, why? Because I may not be able to do things I can still do now. I still train regularly, such as I did a Deadlift workout on Friday, nothing to write home about but I did 145 kg for reps. So nothing world class and record breaking but I was happy with it. I still practice martial arts 3 to 4 times per week, walk around 4 to 5+ miles per day, work nights, have two children and a partner who also works, so we juggle the children between us. So what I am trying to say is just keep on going, don't think I can't do, just do and you will find out that you can do more than what you actually think you can. And go out and mingle.
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Post by jonrock on Apr 7, 2019 8:30:42 GMT
Hello jrg, Happy birthday to you!! I am 30, so I don't have as much experience as other people here. What I have learned is that time flies by very fast and that what you put your effort into is what you get out of it, be it career, exercise, hobbies, family, etc...like Muse say in "knights of cydonia": don't waste your time or time will waste you. Make exercise your daily discipline, your cornerstone. That which no matter what, you can always control, everyday. Your space. Pray if you are religious and don't merely exercise, put your feelings in it. Your hopes. It will become more than exercise, it will be your Temple. You will build confidence and learn about yourself. Read this carefully, it helped me 2 years ago: www.nerdfitness.com/iron-and-soul/On the other hand, make friends: walking the dog, do a course about something interesting and talk to people, etc... You need a few good friends and/or acquaitances. In time you will meet a good girl, court her and there you have it. It will only happen if you make a decision and ACT. So ACT, in a few months from here you will be stronger, have a better physique, acquaitances/friends and a girlfriend. Btw, there is somethig you have: many people here willing to help.
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Post by Alan OldStudent on Apr 7, 2019 9:05:14 GMT
Today is my 24th birthday.... Happy birthday, M8!! Sunday, April 7 is my birthday. I'm actually more than 3 times older than you.
.....Of course I'm alone at home since I don't have friends, family or a girlfriend, but it's okay. I have electricity, a full fridge and roof over my head that's all I need. I already did my first workout in the morning and I will do another one later as every day. That's one of the few things that actually bring me joy.... It's great to be grateful for the things you have. And it's wonderful that you enjoy working out. I myself am quite grateful for my house, my lady, my peaceful environment, and my abounding good health.
But you also sound like you get lonely. If you can find friends, that will help a lot. Wives, girlfriends, etc come at a later stage after you've acquired friends. Maybe somebody who likes to work out, likes the same movies, books, etc.
..... What has always been my biggest fear however is getting older... I'm scared of it. It's unstoppable and irreversible. I just think that at some point "it's too late". I'm 24, haven't achieved anything of note in my life, barely know myself, have no real goals, no aspirations, nothing that drives me forward. Sometimes in the morning when I wake up I'm like "for what am I doing this?" .. I just work to survive. I'm like "is that all? this can't be it".. I don't like my job, it's not fun, I'm not even very good at it! I just do it to pay my rent. I think that's the case for many people. Many people don't like their job isn't that normal?.... What you're describing is the fate of so many working people. You sell your labor for a wage. You're told you live in a democracy, but the majority of your conscious life is working in a dictatorship. The boss has the power to fire you. If you're lucky, you have a reasonably decent boss, but that just means he's a benign dictator. Until I retired some years ago, I led the life of just such a worker, and I understand how soul-sapping that can be. You ask if that is normal? Well, it's common under our present system where a small minority of people are capitalists and the majority of people are wage slaves. .... What bothers me is that there is nothing in life that I'm really good at. ... The beginning of wisdom is the humility to admit to yourself that you have these feelings and sense of alienation. The poor shmucks with an inflated sense of self are the real losers. They are the braggarts, the pompous, the arrogant. They are deluded fools.
You, on the other hand, have a foundational understanding of where you're presently at. That's a promising beginning for something better. Maybe there is some way you can find to learn something that can help you change your situation or job. I know it's tiring to study after working your ass off all day and spending a lot of psychic energy dealing with the hassles of life. You have our support.
....Other people they have a passion, something they happily put all their energy into. It's their purpose in life. A path they can follow. I'm just here, running in circles. I just wish I had some kind of purpose in life, a mission, something I can identify with and work towards. I can't be the only one who has/had these problems. I wish my father was still alive he always had advice and showed me the way.... My condolences that your father isn't around to put his hand on your shoulder and help you right now. How long ago did you lose him? It's obvious his passing was very hard on you.
The thing about being part of human existence is that nobody gets out of this alive, including your father, including you and me.
When I was your age, I was very afraid of death. Now that I'm in the last years of my life, I don't fear it. You see, death is automatic. So really, we don't have to worry about it. The hard challenge is living well, not dying.
I don't believe in heaven or hell. I don't believe in life after death or religion, although under Jewish law I am a Jew. But I believe in life here on earth.
I believe that if we can make this world a better place than it was when we got here, then our life was not a waste. It's not that we have make a mighty, earth-shaking historical contribution on our own. In fact, most of us don't. But we can make a small contribution, deal honorably with others, be kind. Although such contributions are modest, many modest contributions end up meaning a lot.
My own small contribution, besides basic decent and law-abiding conduct, has been to devote myself to the cause of socialism for more than 60 years. That has given me a sense of purpose and satisfaction in life.
I have a motto based on a statement by Tom Paine, who was a noted hero of the American revolution. If you want, you can adopt it as your own. Here it is: The world is my country, the human race my family, and to do good my religion.
Again, best birthday wishes. Remember, we canegurus care about you.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2019 9:19:29 GMT
Buy Prof. Jordan Peterson's book The Twelve Rules for Life.
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Post by Bruce Tackett on Apr 7, 2019 14:46:14 GMT
Very well said, Alan!
Here's my favorite quote, and one that I often refer to: "Apply to infested area".
I thought of something else - I think the early 20's are the most difficult years of a person's life. Thinking back to when I was 21 - 22, I had the same misgivings that you do. I wasn't a very happy person at all. But you learn and you grow. I remember my oldest brother once telling me that when he was that age, he was seriously considering suicide. And then he joined the Pagans and things got more interesting for him. The key to learning and growing is interaction with others. Get yourself into situations where you will socialize. Join a gym, join a club. I wouldn't recommend Scientology. Stop into a watering hole that is popular with young adults.
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