Post by jonrock on Apr 24, 2019 13:18:35 GMT
Yeah, the dadbod thing has been hugely misinterpreted. When many women say they like a dadbod they have a different thing in mind. They have a powerful, strong image in mind of what a good, protecting dad should be. Women generally dislike super-lean, vein-infested bodies with 2% body fat, they look gross and skin-less to most of them. So when they say they prefer a dadbod what they're actually saying is that they prefer a little more fat covering the muscles, something more like 12-15%. Not a chubby couch potato. They want athletic, muscular guys who look healthy, not dehydrated.
And yes, it's good to notice women's attention, but it can also put you in some uncomfortable situations. I work in the courts of justice and 85% of the personnel there are women. I'm usually fine with that, but a couple of times in our coffee break 6 or 7 of my closest colleagues started commenting on my physique without any shame or care about how that would feel for me. Call me a crybaby if you want, but it was not a pleasant experience and got me thinking about how uncomfortable many women must feel in male-dominated environments. I didn't feel harassed or anything, but the feeling of being a piece of meat was honestly not welcome. So guys, never treat women like that, I can assure you it's not funny at all.
Also, a colleague who I only considered a close friend of mine did something very close to harassing me for almost 2 years. She knew I was married with children but still she kept hitting on me. She then felt regret, apologized and behaved normally for some time, then went back to hitting on me. I even stopped talking to her for a few months, and it was painful because I considered this woman my best friend there. Now things are fine, we've worked it out and she finally accepts that she won't get what she wants. Still jokingly hits on me from time to time but nothing like it used to be. But I stay alert and try to just not talk to her much. I feel like I lost a friend. Or what I thought was a friend.
Well, many times people, women and men alike, dress in a provocative manner. I am not saying it is your case, but it is a fact that affects the way others treat you.
On the other hand some people are not respectful of others and criticize/talk about others purely because of looks.
Regarding friends and hitting on, I have always been very strict differentiating friends and girlfriends. It is a matter of being firm. Some women do not accept a NO and can be quite manipulative, better to pass.